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    About guys who don't pay attention to their girlfriends

    We've all seen it before: A girl animatedly tells her boyfriend the minutiae her day, and the guy keeps his eyes on the TV and mumbles "mhm"s at her. She finally asks if he's heard a word she's been saying, he fails to back up his claim that he has, she accuses him of not paying enough attention to her and she storms off. I have something to say about this.

    I was talking to a female friend of mine today about the beauty of programming languages. Eventually it became obvious to me that she did not care the tiniest bit and wasn't even listening to me, and I got pretty irritated at her. I was all ready to storm off.

    Why am I bringing this up? Because this happens on both sides; inevitably a girl is going to want to talk about something that a guy just doesn't give a shit about and vice versa; and this is ok. It's just a fact of the universe. Once I acknowledged the fact that the girl I was talking to didn't give a shit about computer language, I didn't begrudge her at all for showing no interest in the conversation I was trying to have. There's no reason to get mad at somebody for not sharing the same interests as you.

    So girls out there (all two of you on this forum): For god's sake, the next time you babble on about gossip or celebrity breakups or your favorite TV show: your boyfriend doesn't care, and there's no reason to get mad at him about it. And that goes for guys as well.
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    I'm getting the sense that...uMad.

    That said though, I agree with you. I have no problem if a girl wants to chat, but I quickly zone out whenever the conversation turns to gossip, shopping, reality TV...well you get the idea. Guys are the same way. I just don't give a sweet shit about how wasted you got last weekend, sorry.
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    But but I babble on and on about photography to everybody all day, they care right? Right??

    In all seriousness, I agree with you, but sometimes it's nice at least for the other party to feign interest, emphasis on sometimes, don't be a pushover.
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    There's a really good solution to resolving conversations your not interested in, stare at them in the eyes and do not blink, Don't make it too awkward just look at them without a word for a moment.

    Worked for me last Friday actually, some random girl who I've never met in my life decided she wanted to talk to me about some random gossip, About a minute in she got the hint and said she felt it would be a good idea if she went else where.
    pretend your taking notice, nod n' smile and you will either deter from carrying on or you will avoid the constant bickering about how you never listen.
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    I'll just put on my smug face and say umad.

    But seriously this happens a lot, I mean me and this one girl we used to talk alot about common things we both liked, we ran out of things to talk to and we became silent. And like what Rob said, I try to say something interesting to her but she pays no attention which I shrug it off and resume what I was doing before. Same thing from her to me. I learned not to get too irritated. One time when it was early in the morning at school I was very tired, this girl talked to me about random bs and I fell asleep, well that didn't work to well for me >_>, not lieing lol.


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    Re: About guys who don't pay attention to their girlfriends

    I agree, though sometimes I will catch myself talking about something that the girl obviously doesn't care about, so I just stop and say "yeah, you probably don't care about this, lets talk about something else." Now I just wish girls had the same sense sometimes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rob Oplawar View Post
    We've all seen it before: A girl animatedly tells her boyfriend the minutiae her day, and the guy keeps his eyes on the TV and mumbles "mhm"s at her. She finally asks if he's heard a word she's been saying, he fails to back up his claim that he has, she accuses him of not paying enough attention to her and she storms off. I have something to say about this.

    I was talking to a female friend of mine today about the beauty of programming languages. Eventually it became obvious to me that she did not care the tiniest bit and wasn't even listening to me, and I got pretty irritated at her. I was all ready to storm off.
    There's a difference between sharing the details of your day, like "I aced my exam! I'm so stoked!" and me trying to explain vector calculus to somebody if they don't understand the basics of it. If the girl you were talking to isn't really computer savvy, and you're gushing about how C++ is the best programming language out there and why, I doubt she'll be interested because she has no idea what it is. I would almost be more offended if someone FAKED interest and was just like, "Oh yeah, that's so cool. Yeah." in a monotone voice.

    Quote Originally Posted by Rob Oplawar View Post
    Why am I bringing this up? Because this happens on both sides; inevitably a girl is going to want to talk about something that a guy just doesn't give a shit about and vice versa; and this is ok. It's just a fact of the universe. Once I acknowledged the fact that the girl I was talking to didn't give a shit about computer language, I didn't begrudge her at all for showing no interest in the conversation I was trying to have. There's no reason to get mad at somebody for not sharing the same interests as you.

    So girls out there (all two of you on this forum): For god's sake, the next time you babble on about gossip or celebrity breakups or your favorite TV show: your boyfriend doesn't care, and there's no reason to get mad at him about it. And that goes for guys as well.
    Here's the thing about us girls; it doesn't matter that you CARE about what we're saying so much as it matters that you're LISTENING to us. Even if you don't give two fucks about Jersey Shore, listening to your girl is the respectful thing to do. (vice versa, even if I don't know a damn thing about programming language I'll still sit and listen to you because that's what a significant other is there for)


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    Its going to happen, what annoys me the most, is when people at the start listen, and follow on, then they slowly drift and pay no attention, just gaze into a void.

    I just pick up on the fact they have no interest, I usually stop talking about it, change subject, or ask them if somethings bothering them (if it looks like something is).

    You can tell alot of things from someones body language.

    Its vice versa too, I was in a club the other week, a girl started to talk to me about something, I could hardly hear her, I was pretty drunk as well, but I tried my best to follow the conversation and wanted to seem engaged in it so I just nodded alot and said yes. I caught the main drift of what she was going on about so yeah, I would have felt bad just like ignoring her.

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    I avoid the situation entirely by not saying anything at all to people unless I'm dragged in or if I hear them talking about a topic I can relate to or have knowledge on.

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    Re: About guys who don't pay attention to their girlfriends

    Quote Originally Posted by Aerowyn View Post
    listening to your girl is the respectful thing to do.
    The respectful thing to do is not ear-rape someone.

    My gf usually doesn't give a flying rat's ass about the stuff i talk about and vice versa. I tell her all the time, "Hey, i'm not one of your girlfriends. If you just feel like flapping your gums go call one of them." That doesn't mean we don't talk, we talk all the time. I just have to reel her in every now and then when it turns into verbal diarrhea.

    I understand girls have a biological need to share everything verbally, what I don't get is the guys that do the same thing.

    Everyone talks too much.


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