Re: 3ds max makes me angry
figured it out. incase anyone else wants to know how, you have 6 tabs on the right. from left to right they are create, modify, hierarchy, motion, display, and utilities. under the display tab, theres a thing called unhide by category where when you select something off the list it should show a bunch of point helpers. you can select these and delete these. doing so both gets rid of that stuff in the unhide by name list AND removes the IK solvers from your objects.
will leave thread open for somebody to let me know if i did something wrong or if theres a different way to accomplish what i did