welcome to my world. Just do what I do- make mindless random conversation with your friend who is obviously busy with something else until he gets pissed at you and tells you to fuck off. It seems to be working for me so far...
But seriously, it sounds to me like you're in a bit of a social dry-spell, and if that's the case, the internet is not the place to look for an answer. =/
The only way you can help yourself is to stop being such a fucking immature kid and grow up. Conversing on the internet is soo easy because there's no immediate, and sometimes long-term, consequences. Grow some balls, talk in real life, and take some hits. It's the only way you're going to get anywhere in life.Originally Posted by ExAm
This image is a perfect example of what I mean. I'd always doodle stupid things like this with a girl and give them said labels. It was the source of many of our inside jokes. Took me forever to ask that asexual bitch out. The day after she said no, I drew everything in that picture besides the person with the rocket launcher, the plane, and the dotted line signifying the plane's path. I showed it to her and drew in the person with the rocket launcher. She laughed and thought the cow was going to get it. I then drew the dotted line going up and resulting in the explosion. I drew in the horizontal path of the airplane and wrote in the sounds. By the time I finished drawing in the swirly path of the plane and drew it about to crash into the ground, she had the most awesome look of sorrow on her face.
Now get off teh internetz, go out there, and either get into a relationship or get kicked in the balls. If you get kicked in the balls, dont cry like a wussie. Instead, do something deep and intellectual to return the favor without ruining any friendship you have.
BTW: I was seriously considering becoming a jet jockey when I drew that.
Again, part of that is stating what has already been said. I have been talking to people normally, I just completely freeze up every now and then for no apparent reason, and then for a short period afterwards I say things that are completely and utterly stupid, and that's what's pissing me off, that's what I wrote about, and that's what I'm trying to conquer here.
On the other part of your post, though your methods are "unorthodox" to put it nicely, you're actually in a way confirming what I've been trying to do. Despite being an asshole, you may have given me some encouragement. However, your bit about getting into the relationship is complicated, because as I said, the girl is already in one, and half the situation is completely unknown.
you know, I sort of have a similar recurring problem in my life, and even though that post wasn't directed at me I think I needed to hear that.
Man up and take a risk. Without ever taking the risk and doing anything, you'll always be wondering.
Now imagine that that girl you're chasing is single, six years older than you, and 600 miles away. You've been talking to each other online and on the phone for 3 years + and you're about to knock on her front door for the first time. She has no idea you're coming to surprise her. How nervous are you now? What do you say? "Hi?" something else lame?
She throws a party the next night, several of her friends that you've never met show up. She's told them all about you, so they're expecting amazing things from you. You don't know anything about these people, they're all a good few years older than you and aren't much like you at all. How do you fit in? How do you find words to say to live up to their expectations?
^^ me in february
Life is crazy dude, shit happens. Even if you don't live up to your own expectations you can learn from your experience. The girl in my story there was leaving for basic training for the National Guard a week after I left her place, so although timing to tell her how I feel about her was terrible, she knows and all is well.
Because of my shitty timing she got an easy answer to my feelings. "I really can't think about this right now, I have kinda a long term thing with the army goin on. We'll talk about it later though okay?"
I couldn't blame her for it, but fuck that was not what I wanted to hear. I'm glad I told her though.
point of story?
Your situation can be so fucked up that it's hard to find confidence, but you just have to let go of your fears and embrace the moment. If you start to clam up or something just bring up an old story that you kids shared that the other people don't know about... or tell an embarrassing/silly story about yourself. Once you've shown that you're vulnerable (embarrassing story) it's a lot easier to engage in the conversation/be accepted into it.
That's 99.999999999% of a bad idea. Hell, they even tell military people that if they value their relationships, they should call from the airport.
Chatting != talking. Talking is serious bussiness.Again, part of that is stating what has already been said. I have been talking to people normally, I just completely freeze up every now and then for no apparent reason, and then for a short period afterwards I say things that are completely and utterly stupid, and that's what's pissing me off, that's what I wrote about, and that's what I'm trying to conquer here.
On the other part of your post, though your methods are "unorthodox" to put it nicely, you're actually in a way confirming what I've been trying to do. Despite being an asshole, you may have given me some encouragement. However, your bit about getting into the relationship is complicated, because as I said, the girl is already in one, and half the situation is completely unknown.
Call me a fucking dick, shame on you.
Call me an asshole, shame on me.
Call me something again, you're the fuck out of here.
Her best friend and mom were in on it. Her mom was keeping her at her house, and her best friend was with me. Things went great and she was in tears she was so excited/happy/surprised.
Worked out well for me.
Sorry, but you needed to hear it from someone, even if you've heard it from like a billion people already. I really think that it's something you need to work on as a moderator. Don't infract me for this, I'm not intending to insult you.
God dammit Exam.
i've been trying to read this shit for 3 days but i can never read it cause i've always been drinking. It's like even if i read it, i forget what i'm going to say before i post. gah.
will post tomorrow.
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